Most men grew up in environments where emotional expression was either discouraged or simply never modeled. You watched the adults in your life push through, stay quiet, and handle things. That was the lesson: handle it! So when something starts to feel too heavy, the instinct is to do what you have always done. Work harder, sleep it off, or wait it out. And sometimes that works. But sometimes it does not, and the longer you wait, the heavier it gets. Asking for help is a ski